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Love is Not a Feeling

The song with the above title by Don Francisco starts with the following:

“So you say you can’t take it
The price is too high
Your feelings have gone
It seems your river’s run dry

You never imagined
It could turn out so rough
You give and give and give
And still it’s never enough”

The world gives us a definition of love that is all about feelings – slushy, sentimental emotions that can change with circumstances or even the state of our health.

Love is an action. It is putting the need of somebody else higher than your own. It is saying no to self. The exhausted mother does not feel like getting up in the middle of the night because her screaming child has thrown up all over her bed. She does not feel like cleaning her up, changing the bed clothes, mopping the floor and soothing her back to sleep. Her actions have nothing to do with any sentimental slushy feeling. If anything, she is more likely to feel resentment or irritation. Yet, her actions are love.

My mother is old and frail and hardly gets out of bed. My brother and sister-in-law live on the same property, and every day they bring her food, feed her dogs and generally look after her, taking her to doctors when needed or sometimes hospital in the middle of the night. My mother is not an easy person. A doctor told her she is a very difficult woman. She did not contradict him. So it is out of no fuzzy sentimental feeling that my brother and sister-in-law are acting. They are loving our mother. Feelings have nothing to do with it.

John says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. (1 John 3:16a NIV)

The song ends:

“Jesus didn’t die for you
Because it was fun
He hung there for love
Because it had to be done

And in spite of the anguish
His work was fulfilled
Cause love is not a feelin’
It’s an act of your will
Love is not a feelin’
It’s an act of your will

Now I wouldn’t try to tell you
That it’s easy to stand
Satan’s throwin’ everything
That’s at his command

But Jesus is faithful
His promise is true
And the things that He asks
He gives the power to do

You know He didn’t die for you
Because it was fun
He hung there for love
Because it had to be done

And in spite of the anguish
His work was fulfilled
Cause love is not a feelin’
It’s an act of your will
Love is not a feelin’
It’s an act of your will

Love is not a feelin’
It’s an act of your will”

Source: Musixmatch

Songwriters: Don Francisco

My Prayer

Lord Jesus, You commanded me to “Love one another as I have loved you.” You know that is impossible for me. As You live in me, please love through me. I surrender my puny efforts to try to love. Amen.

A Little Girl’s Prayer.

This is the story my best friend told me yesterday about her granddaughter.

The five-year-old had a sleep-over with Granny. She had been talking about how she wished she could see God doing something. Maybe a miracle! Before bed they prayed together and my friend asked her granddaughter what miracle she would like Jesus to do for her.

“I wish there were plants in my pot,” she said without hesitation.

Last year, the pre-primary school her two cousins attended had had a grandparents’ tea and each child made a bookmark as a gift for Granny and Grampa. The teachers had attached small packets of mixed flower seeds to each.

Like a good Granny, when my friend had all three girls together, she allowed each to plant seeds in her own special pot. Although the seeds in the cousins’ pots sprouted and bloomed, the third pot has remained barren for six months. Not the tiniest glimmer of anything green.

Until a little girl’s prayer.

My friend said, “Well, I thought to myself, I don’t want my grandchild to be disappointed so I’m going to play God and I’ve got some seeds in my room and when she’s sleeping in the dark I’m quickly going to go out and I’m going to plant those seeds and then when they come up, I’ll say, ‘Look, God has answered your prayer.'”

She sneaked out in the dark with a spade and the seeds and this is what she saw.

She was about to pull them out, thinking they were weeds, but on closer inspection in the dark they didn’t look like weeds. In the morning she thought she’d just have another look and see if they were flowers or weeds before showing them to her granddaughter but the thought came to her, How can you do this? God’s already done a miracle, how can you limit Him? For six months the pot has been absolutely barren. Now there are plants.

When the little girl ran out to look at her pot and she saw the small green leaves, her response was. “Thank you Jesus.”

I think this miracle was just as much for my friend as for her granddaughter.

Matthew 18: 2-4 tells us:

He called a little child to him and placed the child among them. And he said: Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” (NIV)

C’m On, Grow Up!

This week I have been reading in Ephesians. What struck me in Ephesians 4:12 was that God wanted me to attain to mature womanhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, so that I may no longer be a child, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. Rather, speaking the truth in love, I am to grow up in every way…..

What does that mean? What am I to do? I can’t do vague. So I decided to make a comparison like we were taught to do at school.

  • Child:   Spends all her pocket money on sweets and toys on the first day.
  • Adult:   Budgets money to pay for commitments and makes sure there is enough to last the month.
  • Child:   Gets distracted from tasks easily .
  • Adult:   Finishes tasks
  • Child:   Gets upset easily about small hurts and disappointments. Throws a tantrum if she doesn’t get her way.
  • Adult:  Moves beyond temporary feelings and impulses.
  • Child:   Assumes adults know everything and believes what she is told.
  • Adult:   Makes own decisions based on reason and research rather that the popular opinion of others.
  • Child:   Govered by the feeling of the moment.
  • Adult:   governed by values and understanding of the right thing to do.

I could probably add a lot to this list but just these five points make me realize yes, I haven’t grown up properly. I still do what I feel like and regard my hard earned money as mine to spend as I wish.   I tried to remember how I justified my purchase of a tablet just because everybody else had one. Now its main purpose is as an alarm to wake me in the mornings.

So, I have a long way to go. Only with God’s help can I outgrow my childish tendencies and grow into the maturity he desires.